Ten Tips For Picking Up Strippers
Ten Tips For Picking Up Strippers
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Here is an article by Dean Cortez Strip Club Game: 10 Tips For Picking Up Strippers:
(My comments in Bold)
Here are ten of my tips for strip club success:
1. Go in with the right mindset: when you’ve got game, you know you’re way more interesting and confident than 99% of the customers who come to this place. Strippers spend most of their shift having tedious conversations with lame, predictable men. Once you’ve demonstrated otherwise, she’ll be pleasantly surprised to meet you.
Excellent Advice. Only I go into a Gentleman’s Club knowing I am way more interesting and confident than 99.99999999% to 100% of the customers.
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2. When you enter the club, walk around with your head held high, like you are totally familiar with this environment. Never lurk or mill around as if you’re unsure of where to sit. Find a seat and settle in, preferably near a speaker. (I’ll explain why in a moment.) Do not sit on “pervert row” (this is what the girls call the seats in front of the stage.)
Always enter with mad swag. And Dolo. I prefer sitting near the bar.
3. When a stripper you like approaches you, don’t let her sit on your lap. Make her sit beside you. (”Whoa, easy there! Have a seat next to me until we get to know each other a little better.”) Having a cocky, playful attitude goes a long way in the strip club. It conveys confidence and establishes that you understand her “game”-and aren’t going to follow her script.
I don’t mind if an Exotic Dancer sits on my lap in an outdoor smoking area. But never in the club.
Also, don’t agree if she immediately offers a dance. Pretend like you didn’t hear her correctly-act like you think she asked YOU to dance for HER.
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Never get dances unless it is your only opportunity to isolate a girl ie a no-alcohol grind spot. And then, just have her sit next to you while you pitch. Or if you are looking for a “Buzzer Beater”.
Say something like, “Are you sure you can afford me? I charge $100 for three songs, and no touching below the belt.”
Not sure about this line. A little goofy. But the “spin” is correct.
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Get her to sit down next to you, and ask her name. She’ll tell you her “dancer name.” (Mercedes, Porsche, Destiny, etc.) To this, give another playful response: “My dancer name is Hercules. I dance on Tuesdays and Thursdays at the club down the road. But I’ll tell you what if you tell me your real name, I’ll tell you mine. Just promise me you won’t stalk me or do anything weird.”
Again a little goofy. I typically have no issues with getting a Dancers real name. But I typically am wearing custom suits from Savile Row, so that may play a factor.
Say this playfully, and you’ll get her to laugh and tell her your real name. Now you’re starting the interaction on a genuine level, and you’re breaking her out of her “work” mind frame. Strippers, like salesmen, have a canned “script” that they use on every customer; when you control the interaction instead of answering her questions, she is unable to use her script and has no choice but to be real with you.
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Preferably you’ll be sitting with her near a speaker (I suggested you choose this area to sit in), because now you can say “let’s move somewhere quieter, I want to be able to hear you.” This shows you value what she has to say, and gives it the feel like a “mini date”: you’re taking her somewhere, even if it’s just to the other side of the room. Physically leading a woman to another area is a great way to convey masculinity and confidence.
I like this theory. I do the same thing only chill at the bar and take an Exotic to go smoke. Builds rapport.
4. Keep your eyes off of her body and maintain eye contact. Never comment on how good she looks; if anything, call her “cute.”
“You’re cute, but I can tell there’s more to you than meets the eye. So tell me something about yourself that none of these customers would ever guess about you.” (Again, you’re framing yourself as not being a customer.)
Excellent technique. Never be like “regular guy”.
5. Be respectful of her profession. Never refer to it as “stripping”; the term to use for her is “dancer.” Say (or imply) that you’ve dated dancers before and demonstrate familiarity with her profession. Then I’ll say, “It’s too bad I swore off dating dancers, because I can tell you and I would get along.” (If she asks you “why you don’t date dancers,” be vague-just tell her, “It’s a long story, I’ll tell you about it sometime.” Then ask her another question that prompts her to keep thinking and sharing.
Straight out The G Manifesto playbook.
Another good line to use: “I know you must have some funny stories from working here. My friend is a dancer in Las Vegas, and she told me some hilarious stories about the customers who come in these places”
Too standardized. Every girl has heard this one a million times.
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6. Befriend the staff: bouncers, coat check, bus boys, DJs, managers, the owner, etc. When you visit, staff members should know and greet you. This gives you high social value (or “social proof”) in the eyes of the dancers; again, you’re not a typical customer.
Again, straight out The G Manifesto Playbook. Lock the spot down.
Befriending male staff members is easy: I’ll bring a can of Red Bull over to the doorman and say, “Here, I thought you could use this,” and give him the drink. Then tell him, “you must be the envy of all your friends-hanging out in a club full of beautiful, half-naked women every night and getting paid for it. By the way, my name’s Dean.”
Nine times out of ten, the doorman will proceed to tell you why working at a strip club is anything but exciting and glamorous. Have a few laughs with him; chat for a few minutes, then head back to your seat. He knows you now, and he’ll appreciate the gesture. Every time you return from now on, he’ll give you a warm welcome.
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Befriending the manager or owner will give you even greater social proof. To do this, I’ll ask my waitress to point out the person who is running the place. Then I’ll walk up to the manager/owner, introduce myself, and tell them this is one of my favorite clubs. Then, I’ll say that I’m trying to find a good location for my buddy’s upcoming bachelor party and I think this place would be perfect. I’ll ask how much it would cost to reserve a VIP room and several dancers for a few hours.
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(I never actually come back for any bachelor party; I just use this as an “ice breaker” to get to know the manager/owner. They’re happy to talk to me about this. When I return in the future, if they ever ask me about the bachelor party plans, I say with a smile, “well actually, it looks like we’ll be throwing him a divorce party pretty soon. Do you do those, too?”
7. Don’t forget, the girls are there to make money. Go on slow nights when there aren’t a lot of customers vying for their attention. When you sit down with a girl and you’ve been chatting for a little while, it’s okay to buy a dance from her-but a minute or two into the song, tell her she can sit back down, and resume the conversation. (Again, always behave like a non-customer.)
Weeknights are always best at The Gentleman’s Club. Weekend nights are only if you have the spot on lock.
8. During the conversation, apply the same tactics you would use on women in a bar. Use techniques like Cold Reads and Hypotheticals. Many examples of these are explained in the “Secrets Of Strip Club Seduction” book. At all times, you will control the direction of the conversation and keep taking it to a deeper level, instead of trying to fill the time with pointless small talk.
9. One of the most effective ways to bond with a stripper is to get her to reveal her hidden talent and or/ambition. They’ve all got one. Strippers are used to customers treating them like brainless sex objects, and deeply appreciate it when a guy recognizes them for being more than that. This conversational thread also gives you the opportunity to reveal YOUR talent/ambition to her. (To women, a guy with passion and ambition is often MORE attractive than the guy who already has a lot of money.)
True. But having tons of CASH never hurts.
10. As far as “closing” with the dancer you like, the “Secrets Of Strip Club Seduction” program contains some very clever (and effective) methods for scoring her phone number and getting her to agree to meet you after her shift ends. (Special tactics are necessary here, because strippers normally have a tendency to be flakes.)
Meeting up with that same night needs to be your primary goal. This is why an essential part of seducing strippers is knowing two or three “go-to” spots that are within easy driving distance of the club, where you can meet and chill with her when she gets off work.
Always have the “after hours” spots on lock.
Always “oversell” these places to her. Instead of asking her to meet you at a bar (which sounds boring and ordinary), tell her that the bar has “the most amazing appetizers” or “the most incredible jukebox” or that “your buddy Mike the bartender makes the best margaritas you’ve ever tasted.” This provides additional motivation and frames you as a guy who is “in the know” and is going to turn her onto something cool.
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Talk to you soon –
Your Wingman,
Dean Cortez
Original Article: Strip Club Game: 10 Tips For Picking Up Strippers
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Advanced move for Picking up Exotic Dancers
The Gentleman’s Club Theorem AKA The Local Bar Theorem
Manifesto Destiny II: Innovative Gentleman’s Club Concepts
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27/06/2009 at 4:24 pm Permalink
I realize these aren’t your steps to picking up a stripper, but you should know that this list is truly awful and some of the worst advice I have ever read. I’m allowed to say that as a former dancer, myself.
First of all, the dancers are there to MAKE MONEY and distracting them from their jobs and trying to NOT spend money is the equivalent of some dude standing in line at the Subway chatting up the girl behind the register who has a long line of customers to help.
Almost ALL dancers are irritated by men who think they can “befriend” dancers and come off as a regular guy, because regular guys don’t go to strip clubs looking for romance……we know better and most dancers are not as stupid as this writer seems to think they are.
Asking a dancer her real name is usually a violation of club policy (if it’s a half decent club with rules) and could get the dancer fired. Yeah, women love losing their jobs for a date. Also most clubs have a strict policy against dancers EVER giving out their phone numbers or dating a customer and this is very strictly enforced in most clubs. Again, a dancer with sense knows this will get her immediately terminated and also is extremely dangerous. This woman will assume you are a predator or stalker (since most of the regulars are).
The worst I’ve read here is telling men not to sit at the stage. Again, the club I worked for would remove gentlemen who refused to go up and tip the girls who are dancing. Do you know what the dancers call men who watch the girls on stage from a few rows back? They are called “Pussy Peepers” among the strippers. This is used to describe a scumbag who thinks he deserves a free show. Again, staying in the back WILL NOT get you in good with ANY dancer, and especially not the bouncers or manager because they get tired of hearing girls complain about the “pussy peepers” and having to tell them to tip or get out of the club.
On meeting the dancer at a nearby place? Never happen. The club I worked for, the bouncers would stand outside with spotlights and make sure no one follows the girls home and to make sure the girls aren’t “meeting up with any men down the block”. Why? Because that is usually another quick way for a dancer to lose her job.
I’m not trying to rag on your blog or on your posts….but from a dancers perspective this is all pretty much the opposite of what any half intelligent dancer would like a man to do. We’re there to make money, never to find love. We don’t even see human beings in front of us….we see dollar signs. That’s what makes it a JOB. If a doctor viewed each patient as an actual human, they’d have a breakdown everytime one died. Think of the same thing for dancers. A woman who dances and doesn’t want to “live the life of a dancer” keeps it professional and separates her work from her private life.
Encouraging men to try to pick up strippers is pretty much a cruel joke and it’s very disrespectful for the dancers. A dancer does not need men having any more encouragement on thinking that a strip club is the same as a brothel or an escort service. Think about what you’re encouraging here. You’re offering ways for men to make these girl’s lives more difficult in every way imaginable by all the things on this list. Again, imagine doing these things at a person’s regular job. You wouldn’t be that rude, right? Yet men think dancers deserve less respect and that they “have a right” to try to get laid while they’re there.
That’s what whorehouses are for. Let the ladies do their jobs and stop making it as difficult as you can. Arrive, watch her dance, pay the money you owe her, and move on. You won’t be considered special for distracting her from making money.
13/07/2009 at 7:53 pm Permalink
Hurrah hurrah! I’m sure girls will be more apt to sit with you if you throw some of that ‘ample’ bankroll you talk about. A dancer won’t even remember your name two days later if you’re wearing an expensive suit and all you do is buy her a drink and maybe one dance then Mack on her like she didn’t pay a house fee to be at her JOB.
31/10/2009 at 11:20 pm Permalink
These comments are funny. I have successfully pulled a “dancer” out of a club a few times, back to hotel room ect. And I know plenty of real beautiful EX dancers from Las Vegas, “where I’m from”, who would laugh at you, and your make believe rules and morals about what happens inside and outside a club between two people.
So how did I pick up dancers, Well being good looking, in shape, and a good personality is all you really need.
Dumb dancers like the one above think there is some magical universal rule about not getting hit on at your job. Guess what girlfriend, 99% of girls get hit on at their job, and many find romance there, so stop bickering because you made bad life choices and became a stripper, and then became an something even worse, an unhappy bitchy stripper.
Also maybe you should think about taking more customers home, perhaps if you got fucked more you would stop calling men names and and considering them dollar signs. I might as well view you a piece of ass if I follow your logic, and most defiantly a whore.
Thank god some men and dancers have some class and can actually communicate intelligently in this strange world we live in, while continue ignoring nut jobs like yourself.
27/03/2010 at 12:56 pm Permalink
these tips are unnecessary. there is only way to get a stripper and that is to somehow get her outside of the strip club. i’m not talking about the parking lot i’m talking about to a new location and it must be a different day then when she met u. it is extremely easy to get a strippers number. most of the strippers are stripping to work towards something, all you need to do is to act like your the hookup. for example… i met a stripper last nite and asked her why she’s dancing. she told me she needs a way to make fast cash so she move cuz she’s selling her house. i immediately responded with “really? cuz i’m looking to buy right now” when in actuality theres no way in hell i wanna buy a house right now. i didn’t even ask her for her number, she wrote it down with her address and real name and 12 hours later i was on it. just find that window and its yours. it takes all but 5 minutes not 5 months and you dont have to know everyone in there and be friends with 100 ppl just to slam some.
13/01/2011 at 10:35 am Permalink
Ain’t picking up strippers the best man, lovin’ it, that article was tizzite, for real dough!
07/05/2011 at 4:47 pm Permalink
I completely agree with all of Lady Raine’s comments. This advice is truly awful.
I am a dancer, and there is nothing more annoying (nor anything that turns me off more quickly) than a male trying to pick up in a strip club. And yes, it is obvious to any intelligent dancer that that is what is happening, no matter how smooth you think your game is. I treat my job professionally, and I am at work to make money, not meet men.
Don’t ever think that a dancer disclosing her “real” name and other details is falling for your bait, either. I have a fake “real” name, a fake phone number, and false Facebook details that I will disclose to men who ask to see me outside of work – this is all merely part of my strategy and a way of building trust and rapport in the hope that I will MAKE MONEY off them in the club, which is always a dancer’s aim!
As Lady Raine already stated, encouraging men to try to pick up strippers is a cruel joke; and it’s disrespectful to and extremely frustrating for the dancers. There’s nothing worse than a man wasting a dancer’s time at work thinking he is going to win her over, rather than spending money on her as the majority of customers do.
I reiterate: In a dancer’s opinion, this advice and mindset are truly awful!
08/06/2011 at 8:12 am Permalink
Get out of here with this whole professional attitude bullshit. Your profession is to grind cocks, dupe guys into giving you money and buying drinks and to dance naked and your asking for some respect? That makes absolutely zero sense. Regardless of all the fake names, fake numbers or facebooks you have only out rules you and only you. There is always more than just 1 girl at a club and the majority thinks other wise. TRUST ME. California, Florida, Atlanta, Tennessee, Texas, It’s been the same everywhere I go and I’ve gone home with multiple girls with out paying anything more from the same clubs.
These 10 steps don’t really help other than the confidence tips it gives. It’s all about confidence and not talking too much. Be patient if you really want it and it WILL happen regardless of the dumb ass dancers in here talking shit.
11/06/2011 at 8:35 pm Permalink
Balance people, balance! Like anywhere else there are all kinds of girls in a club too. I have nothing but good experiences from there. Smart girls are happy to take a brake and have a drink with you and chat about something interesting. Once in a while tell them to get back to work in a funny way and most will come back to you without soliciting you for a dance. Once you have rapport with her get a dance and make it fun for both of you and if you really like her go for the number. That’s it. Many will give it to you just because you are decent and have no hangups for whatever she does, That’s my word.
14/07/2011 at 10:20 pm Permalink
WelI am 37 years old male and travel around the world it is true in America women strippers are only after your money it is their job. If you rubbed your private area for 8 hours a nite you would not be ready for sex. LOL I believe as a intelligent male I have my PHD in robotics engineering, yes I have money but if I go into a strip club with free money to give away I expect to see or feel some huge tits and have them listen to my problems in life. It is a place to relax have a drink and talk shit to a hot stranger this never happens in real life. aka money In any case I am sure all strippers hate their job demeaning their body for money but hey If I was a stripper I would date a hot MILF for sure watching me dance eventually you have to have sex.
To all the strippers out there you have no idea why each individual male is in your club or how rich they are or how much of a nice guy they are. If you only see dollar signs in the distance then you need to be a lesbian because one day you might talk to a guy who is sincere and loving marry into a rich family and be happy he might take you from your crappy life you are in now. Ciao!
23/07/2011 at 10:11 am Permalink
Picking up strippers is easy. Actually, picking up women is easy no matter where and who, or what the guy looks like. In all honesty, women are catty bitches most of the time and they are very susceptible to criticism. All you have to do is convince her, through your words, confidence, and actions that she-ain’t-all-that. If you can do this, you can have your way with her. In fact, she will be chasing you around inside and outside the club. The advice in this column is rubbish, the one thing it doesn’t do is let you know the truth, make her feel small in comparison to you and you will be able to take her back to your place, her place, or any place in between and she will do you left, right, and sideways and even buy you breakfast in the morning. It is a woman’s survival instinct, she doesn’t want the need dope, she wants the alpha male because her DNA tells her he will protect her. He could be 5’3 and 300 Lbs, trust me she will fall right in. And no, in case, you are wondering, I am not a big, fat dummy. I just know this game better than the strip hos. Be careful though, you can’t fake it, women can smell that a mile away. You have to truly believe that you are better than her (a lot) and she just exists to please you. One time a stripper came to me and asked me for a dance, I showed some C-notes and she wouldn’t leave me alone even though I kept joking with her that she wasn’t that attractive (she was a knockout). She finally convince me to take some lap dances…first thing she said was no touching over here (near the triangle). Ha ha…how laughable that was, I kept sort of blowing her off during that first dance…next thing I know she is pulling my hands into her panties. Before I know it, I am back at her apartment 3 hours later, get this, doing her and her stripper roommate in a threesome. The night cost me maybe $100. Strip hos, you know it is true. You are susceptible to being put down, in fact you are attracted to it.
As far as Ho Raine, WTF nonsense are you spewing, you think anyone gives a crap if your big arse is annoyed at the club? Yep, those guys that see you there and starting cramping up in the middle when you get close to them and start treating you like a lady are your victims. Guys like me, well, let’s just say even you would wake up sore in the morning.
10/12/2011 at 11:32 am Permalink
Everybody makes valid points on both sides of this argument. However to the Dancers that are commenting, nobody is holding you hostage when you’re talking to a guy and all he wants to do is pick you up… It’s as simple as getting up and walking away. Working as a dancer takes a specific personality type you need to sit with a guy and GAME him, because thats all he is trying to do as well. Whoever is the more convincing will win, usually its the dancer lol… If it was only about dancing half of the broads who work there wouldnt be working there cause they have average bodies, and $3,000 boob jobs. and most of them suck at dancing, the ones with bodies and faces and 6k boob jobs, usually have shitty personalities..
I consider myself a #1 stripper picker upper lol, for the following reasons 1. I throw a lot of money 2. I’m always fun 3. I have a handsome face and a nice body 4. My dick is big…. sometimes 1 and 4 gets them sometimes its #2 sometimes its #3, sometimes its all but a lot of time its just #4 :p
02/03/2012 at 1:58 pm Permalink
Dean Cortez, you a are the man dude! You live a life I aspire to have, keep dropping great insight man. I’m 21 right now with an extreme focus on achieving success in life and I do one day hope to be an International Player like yourself. Keep doing you man and enjoy this wonderful life we’ve been blessed with!
17/03/2012 at 2:07 pm Permalink
The post from the “former dancer” was so irritating that I was unable to read it in its entirety. It was pathetic.
It boggles my mind how a woman chooses a profession based on deceit and exploitation and then has the nerve to criticize men for just being men.
If any one is unclear about the definition of the word “hater…”
There has never been a better example than the “former dancer.”
26/03/2012 at 12:12 am Permalink
Well, for all of you who think that being an asshole will get you somewhere with women….lol. I’m a dancer and yeah, this stuff is pretty silly. When a guy comes into the club acting like a stuck up prick and feels like he needs to insult me that is the BIGGEST TURN OFF IN THE UNIVERSE. It’s really sad to watch guys try and use that tactic. I’ll tell you what makes us want to hang out whether you are spending money or not: be friendly and nice. Be yourself. Ask questions, answer questions. Be real. Don’t be an insecure asshole. I’ve hung out with guys who aren’t spending cash just because they were cool. The second a guy acts like a stuck up jerk or puts me down or says anything listed in that article, I’m gone.
26/03/2012 at 12:17 am Permalink
BTW, Game 100, you make a good point. The fact that you responded maturely and that you weren’t insulting makes you much cooler than the dudes ranting and raving at us,lol!!
31/03/2012 at 4:29 am Permalink
10 tips 4 picking up strippers that work
1: Compliment her
2: Be a gentleman
3: Spend money
4: Talk literature or movies or music or other interests with her.
5: Ask if she goes to school, what’s her major, etc
6: Ask what she likes to do for fun and then invite her to do something like that with you.
7:Be a gentleman
8: Don’t try to be ‘cool’ or say obnoxious, silly things. Say what is actually on your mind. Remember, these girls are working hard and tired and don’t have the energy for stupid and silly games. These will just annoy them.
9: Don’t be too grabby
10: Did I mention to be a gentleman?
17/04/2012 at 11:44 am Permalink
It is a very interesting post. I work in an office of escorts in Medellin, and as someone said earlier, Colombia has some of the best looking women in the world. Here is the reality of it. These girls are like any other girl. If you have somethiing that attracts them (money/good looks/charm) you can get them just like any other girl. Strippers and escorts are people too. lol. No girl wants to feel like you just want to screw them and leave… if you want that you have to pay for it. Everything applies the same for escorts/strippers and any normal girl.
11/05/2012 at 5:57 am Permalink
Last two comments are spot on. Same as any other girl. Be nice, look good (and since we’re at work spend enough money to show that you respect my job and my time but don’t go nuts on the champagne room). Be warned, some girls never see customers outside, but we’ll all say it’s possible. You won’t get our reeeeeal real name until after we call you. Seriously, just give the girl your business card. If she’s into you, she’ll call. I’ve met three fuck buddies and one gaming buddy this way in my 3 years dancing. Notice how few people make the cut out of the 100+ people I see a night. I know a few dancers who met their husbands in clubs, and a lot more who have just met guys for fun. Same as with any other girl, you have to be my type. And I’m picky cause people fawn over me all the damn time. In my case, I’d say being nerdy, into art, thin, and kinky will help your case. Not every dancer likes this. Trying to use a formula like all dancers are the same will probably backfire.
On number 7, be sure to let her walk away to try to make money from other people, then come back to you. Tell her that you understand she’s at work and that if she needs a break from the hustle she can come back and you’ll get her a drink. That will show that you really get it.
Be patient. Fuck “after hours spots.” I want to go home and soak my feet. They’ve been crammed in 7 inch heels all night. If you’re pushy about seeing me that night it’ll just piss me off and then we will never fuck cause I’ll think you’re annoying.
Protips. (Remember, she probably won’t call unless you’re really really really her type cause meeting guys at work is weird. Sorry bout that.)
26/05/2012 at 12:28 pm Permalink
From a dancer perspective, you wouldn’t ever say anything insulting to the dancer.
We here that quite often and is the main reason why most dancers dislike men.
I prefer gentlemen who would pay for conversation and try to get to know me on a deeper level. Someone who is respectful spends money showing the respect for my time and would like to go to a nice candle light dinner.
27/05/2012 at 11:51 am Permalink
ok,
so i went to a strip club last night for the 3rd time in my life…by myself. black v neck and jeans, yankees hat and some cologne. i’m average looking but in pretty good shape.
honestly, if you have game…it’s pretty easy. i had no idea what to expect and just chilled. sipping on some redbulls. a bunch of girls came up to talk to me, a lot of them were ho’s trying to hustle me (which is fine…not gonna happen tho) and a few of the girls were super chill and fun. i’m only 21, i was talking to this 26 year old for awhile just vibing and having a good time, messing around with her a bit and just saying whatever was on my mind. she asked me for my number.
second girl saw me talking to first girl, saw her take down my number and was on my jock for 30 mins, trying to tell me her life story and everything haha. gave me her #, she def was not as cute as 1st girl…had this weird double lip ring but she had an adorable personality.
i’d say a lot of it is just inner game, knowing that you have a higher value than any of these girls, knowing you’re the fucking man and cooler than anyone she’s seen in the last month but not telling her…i was pretending to act shy and nervous and deflected comments about what i did or any personal questions…made them want to know more about me and chill. all kinda subconscious tho, wasn’t like i was thinking about any of this when we were talking.
be relaxed, don’t try to be relaxed…make fun of them a little (playfully!), laugh when they say something cute, compliment them when you’re genuinely impressed about something…be REAL and they will be real with you. if you know how to get girls, you can get a stripper. if you have no game and no confidence, you’re fucked either way.
tipping them a few dollars here or there (i walked up and and tossed a few ones on the stage after the girls dances) doesn’t hurt just to let them know you appreciate their hard work and realize that THIS IS THEIR JOB. doesn’t mean they won’t go out with you or will view you as a target. a girl will always be a girl no matter what.
and strippers are really tight and perfect for short term flings because they have no sexual hangups, they’re realistic and down to earth, super hot, great at sex, and usually decently smart, confident, and free-thinking if they have the courage to strip, which society looks down on.
just my 2c, gonna hit these girls up today and grab some sushi, then pound some sushi, then cuddle for a bit, then roll em out and hit the gym, leaving them happy, satisfied, and wanting more.
19/07/2012 at 11:23 am Permalink
Stumbled across this whilst researching Vegas… I write for a living. And… I dont get you people. At all.
1) Strippers are there to work. They have University. College. Kids. Husbands. They generally dont give a fuck about you unless you flaunt cash. And If the woman was good enough looking she can make 100 plus times more being an escort than a dancer. And no. Not all Escorts fuck. The most presentable and intelligent ones, the ones you dare bring to parties without fearing that they will make asses of themselves, do not fuck, unless they decide to. And then you pay more. Alot more.
2) You are a paycheck. You pay for the bouncer, the lights, the rent, make up, shoes, girls. Dont kid yourself. Bring cash. Enjoy. Then fucking leave. Why?
3) 80% of all strippers / exotic dancers / hookers / escorts have “issues”. (Thats my experience. Im “sure” its very different stateside).
Some are small, some are big. Some are enough to make the titanic sink. And whilst you might think that youre going to imitate Richard Gere in “Pretty Woman” youre not him. You’re not Professor Higgens from “My Fair Lady” either.
You’re a representative of a breed of humans they see as marks or scum. Men. Because 80% plus of the guys who frequent these place see meat, not humans on stage. And most men think they paid for alot more than what they actually did. You’re cattle. And you’re on HER turf. Even in a nice suit. The Suit only indicates that you can be milked for alot more. Saville Row or Bombay made. And if you wear a raw silk tailored suit and enter a common stripjoint you will stick out like a turd in the proverbial punchbowle. You’re cash. Dont kid yourself.
4) If the girl is a professional, she will milk you for cash and try to con every last “cnote” out of you with you standing with nothing to show for it. She might enjoy your company doing it, but she will still do it. If the girl isnt professional, she likely does clients on the side for extra cash. So have fun with those STD’s.
Just dont pick up women in a strip joint. Find a fucking bar instead. A coffeshop, deli, bistro, cafe, whatever. If you have the gift of the gab you can pick up any one of them. Its all in the words. Speak em like you mean em.
02/08/2012 at 10:04 am Permalink
Weird advice…guys go into the clubs to enjoy a few moments of life, then they leave and go about their business. They know that we, as dancers, do the same thing…except that we are working while they are on free time. The ones who respect this are considerate. There’s really no “game” the girls play. They either engage in conversation until the gentleman is ready for dances, or they ask if he is ready to enjoy a dance at the moment. They respond with either “yes” or “no” and sometimes they respond with “maybe later” which usually is understood as a polite form of “no”.
That’s really all there is to it. I’ve been working as a dancer for years and this is the way its been. There’s no hidden mystery to figure out. There’s no hidden plot to getting paid to dance. There’s no complicated issues to figure out regarding what the dancers and the customers are actually doing at the club. And there’s no way of determining if you will meet your next girlfriend there or not. As far as getting a girl in the sack, the majority of customers are not there for that. But the ones who are looking for that should probably either get a girlfriend or find a regular girl on the side. Dancers are dancers. Customers are customers. People are people. And shady people are just plain cowards who are easy to see thru with a pitying eye.
20/08/2012 at 3:27 am Permalink
i have dated a few dancers and can tell you the honest truth. its all about the timing. doesnt matter how much money you spend. doesnt matter if she dates customers or not. its about what she is doing at that moment or thinking that day. and if you have a decent mouth to carry a conversation. the rest is up to your overall goal for the night. if its to get laid, then look for the dancer that is craving attention. if its to maybe meet an intelligent woman for courtship, then look for the intelligent dancer. there is no magic to it. if you want something, get up and get it. if its a dancer, then go get her. if you didnt succeed, learn from what mistakes you made. then, use what you learned and try it on the next girl. keep going, dont stop with one.
30/08/2012 at 11:17 pm Permalink
About “Lady Raine ” while I understand your general attitude, which is shared by some dancers. First,the statement “club I worked for would remove gentlemen who refused to go up and tip the girls who are dancer” this must be some low class club, second if they did that in the USA -mandatory tipping can be considered prostitution- so is illegal. 2, most clubs know girls are going to be asked for their real name so clubs give them 2 names and most up-scale clubs have batch (fake) telephone number to provided to girls so customers can feel special by getting the girls’ number- The sure way to get a dancer besides $2K is access to “pharma products” but the fact that 70% of dancer are addicted to some substance- indicates that they will irrational and emotional weird crap like dating customers,crashing cars, and getting arrested several times a year.
07/09/2012 at 10:42 am Permalink
Possibly the worst comments ever. I’ve been stripping over 3 years and if you act like that, a lot of dancers including myself, would just get irritated.
1. Asking real name : excuse me, if I was going to tell random person my real name, I wouldn’t have made my fake name.
2. Try to ‘befriend’ with us : You think guys treat us like brainless sex object? o’contraire! People ask us about us all the time. What do you do when you are not here, what do you enjoy, what do you study blah blah blah. I know you want to ‘talk’ instead of seeing my naked body to impress me or just generally lonely. but well, we actually rather dance than talk about same stories 100times. hidden ambition or talent? sorry it’s really not that hidden. we talked about it way too much. If we preferred talking than dancing, we wouldn’t be a dancer. please drop that fantasy where you are the only nice one.
3. Try to look cocky? If anybody walks into the club with head up look that I’m confident, I’m not looking at your body attitude, I just say…..you paid to come in. if you want to have beer without appreciating beauty, there’s a pub down the road.
4. telling strippers you’re ‘cute’? haha we know you’re just trying to look cool. a lot of strippers are very good looking and when you say girls are ‘cute’, we don’t take that as you being different, we just take it as you trying to look cool.
5. the thing that we hate most. looking at my eyes all the time instead of my body. and it goes with other dancers as well. ‘oh, your body is amazing but it’s the eye’, ‘you know the best part of you is your eyes’ it’s really just…. freaky.
– i don’t come here often : well, i come here every weekend, don’t judge my work
– you’re better than this : you’re just judging me
– what are you doing here? you’re such a smart woman : same, judging again. and well, i’m making a grand on one night, tell me that’s not smart.
– I love your eyes, can’t stop looking at it (and such thing) : oh, just pathetic. you’re not in love. just give me money and you’ll have good time
– but..we have connections : well, don’t you think it’s my job to make it look like we have connections? i wouldn’t even talk to you if it was outside.
As harsh as my comments were, I’ll give you a genuine advice. After all, strippers are just people. More important thing than how you act in the club is who you really are. If you were to be get along outside of the club, chances are you’ll be get along in the club as well. So, just be yourself. But what not to do is following the stupid advice in this post. and also, make sure you take her for dance at least 1-2 times without going for a dance with someone else. that just shows her respect for her work and also you’re actually into her, not other girls.
08/09/2012 at 10:21 am Permalink
I have to agree completely with Jenna.
This is coming from a 19 year old dancer in Canada:
I’m young but a lot more mature than a lot of the other girls in this game.
1. 99.9% of the girls won’t tell you their real name. It is a breach of our privacy and it actually annoys me a bit when guys ask me my real name. A few nights ago some guy had the nerve to walk up to me in the club and the first thing he said was “What’s your real name hunny? I don’t want to hear your stage name.” It pissed me off and I just brushed him off and walked away. Most girls will have fake ‘real names’ anyways. If I’m dancing for a guy and somehow he asks me what my real name is and I don’t feel like being rude, I’ll just lie and say it’s Cassandra. In reality it’s nothing close to that. So don’t feel ‘priveleged’ or like you’re getting somewhere with us just because we’ve lied to you and told you our fake real name.
2. When a dancer asks you if you’d like a dance… “Pretend like you didn’t hear her correctly-act like you think she asked YOU to dance for HER.”
Okay this is just retarded. I’ve had guys do this to me before and it’s not funny. We might laugh at it to make you think it was funny and that you’re doing a good job at amusing us, but we get this all too often for it to be unique and funny.
3. I’d much rather be called “beautiful” than “cute”. Maybe it’s just because of my age, but “cute” to me is something my aunt would call me… or my gay best friend would be like “that outfit lookss SOOO CUUTEE on you.” It’s not very appealing coming from a guys that I don’t know’s lips.
4. Don’t sit near the speaker. I won’t come to talk to you because I already know that I won’t be able to hear you.
5. Befriending the staff and manager don’t do much for me. It’s a strip club, not a billion dollar law firm. It’s not that impressive that you’re friends with ‘Joe’ the doorman or that you chat up Herman the obese middle-aged dj every time you come in. I really don’t think I could care less. Even if your friends with my manager, basically all that’ll mean for me is that I have to be polite and nice to you. It doesn’t even mean I have to talk to you though. Lots of my managers friends come in all the time and they’re nice and everything but they never buy dances and for this reason I just avoid them.
6. I have so many guys that will just flat out ask me to sleep with them. “Hey hun, wanna head to a hotel after work. Any hotel, you pick…” This makes me cringe and want to throw up at the sight of them.
7. Cockiness is the number one thing I cannot stand.
8. If a guy isn’t buying dances from me, then I don’t want to talk to him. It’s plain and simple. If you keep coming into the club and trying to talk to me but never buy dances, I’m going to get annoyed and avoid you.
We dancers…strippers… whatever you’d like to call us: We come to work to MAKE MONEY. The club is not a dating service. We are not here to socialize. We have to act like we like you to get your money. We are sales-women/hustlers; therefore the more money we make, the more money we get to take home. We want your money and then we want to move on.
I have only ONCE ever met a customer outside of work. He asked me to dinner and I finally caved in after a few months of him coming to the club to buy dances from me. I caved because over the course of these few months he’d spent around $6000 on me, and somehow I felt a bit obligated to at least give him a bit of my time for dinner. I never liked him and never went out with him again. It was a bit of a pity date. I realize this was a mistake because after that he stopped coming to the club to buy dances because he realized he wouldn’t get anywhere with me. I should have kept leading him on to get a bit more cash out of him.
I don’t think I would ever date a guy I’d met at a strip club. There’s just something about meeting a guy and going on a date AFTER hes seen me naked… not appealing.
Basically it’s a lose-lose situation.
If you’re lucky enough to talk to me when I’m walking down the street in regular clothes though, you’ll have a MUCH better chance.
17/10/2012 at 9:36 am Permalink
Okay, I picked up strippers many times. It doesn’t matter what city but it’s basically the same for me. I dole out tons of cash at the strip club. They are working so they are there to make money. I also tip them when they don’t expect it. Kind of like a gift. They like that of course. Who doesn’t? I also pay for everyone. My buddies don’t pay for anything and the girls notice that as well. I don’t ask them out and say “hey, let’s go back to my hotel”. I just tell them that there is another party on this day/evening (usually in a weekend the following week) and if they want to join and have a great time they are welcome. I always ask them that they can bring a few girlfriends to the party. It makes them feel safer but works out for me because you have more girls with you. When they do show up and 90 percent of the time they do, you treat them as just guests. Since they showed up, you have every opportunity to hook up with any of them or all of them LOL. Overall summary, don’t be a miser. These girls like to be treated well.
09/11/2012 at 6:48 pm Permalink
All the posturing strippers on here are amusing. As if they’ve NEVER heard of a stripper dating or fucking a customer, and that club management has all the women on lock. It’s not that complicated to meet a dude somewhere after you get off work. All he needs to say after he’s successfully spit game at you is, “I’ll be at such and such at such and such time later tonight. Come through.” There need not be an exchange of telephone numbers or any other information. He can get all that later when he’s smashing you. Women in all professions meet men at work. And strippers aren’t impervious to game. It’s ridiculous how someone could say that men exhibiting normal male behavior (namely, talking to women they find attractive) could be considered somehow “a cruel joke.” You’re so in love with the idea that you’re gaming/manipulated every man you encounter in the club out of his money that it bothers you that some men are capable of gaming a “dancer” out of her g-string and onto his dick.
03/12/2012 at 1:17 pm Permalink
or watch the video how to tell if your girlfriend is a stripper at http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=2WdFP3kNGM8
24/02/2013 at 11:36 pm Permalink
I will agree with the girls in here that are strippers. The dancers are just there for the money. If you want to get laid you need to try a massage parlor or call up an escort service or just get a girlfriend. I like going to strip clubs though, it’s always fun.
on a side note… here’s a few things I don’t like from strippers…
Don’t ask me how old I am. Hate it when strippers ask me that.
Don’t ask what I do for a living, it’s okay to ask if we’ve known each other for a while. I go to these place to get away from it all and talking about my job is boring.
Always ask if you want to go to a place in the club that is more private. I will spend more on the girl if I “feel” like we’re all alone. However, if your club does charge for private areas, be sure to tell the guy that there is an extra charge for it.
22/04/2013 at 7:06 pm Permalink
The Best Advice i can give to any guy on here is this. “The more you shoot, the more you score.”
13/06/2013 at 4:59 pm Permalink
If a stripper meets a guy at work that she likes she will date him. If she meets a guy she doesn’t like she might fuck him for money on the side(I have been offered sex for money several times at clubs). But if any stripper really clicks with a man she will fuck him regardless of where they met.
23/06/2013 at 2:27 pm Permalink
Fake names? Mind games? First thing that comes to my mind is multiple personality disorder and some kind of paranoia of men. All of you who left a comment just proved that dancers/strippers are on the other side of the ‘normal’ spectrum hence the societal taboo associated with a strip/gentleman’s club. I never been to one but I’d rather much rather fuck Ms. 18 year old tight pussy who has STDs for $200 bucks on backpage then deal with the so called ‘exoticism’ of a stripper. My $0.02 cents.
BTW – some of you girls need to get your head checked out by a really good psychologist
24/08/2013 at 6:42 am Permalink
The advice given is BS, but the comments by Lady Raine are BS as well. I have dated strippers and love them. Two were 1 night stands, one I met a few times for dinner, party, sex, and dated one for about a year and another for 3 years (we even lived together for a while). I have never spent more than $500 at a strip club on a single night, and if I am not dating one of the dancers, I would say I go to strip clubs 3 to 4 times a year. If I become interested in one of them then I will visit her a few times and figure out quickly if she will meet me outside the club or not. It’s not easy to convince them, but once it’s clear that she won’t see me outside the club I am done and ok with it.
Being cocky wont help, but being yourself will go a long way. I don’t drink or smoke so if the girl smells like cigarretes I don’t want her sitting next to me, and most of them won’t drink the alcohol that you buy them, but instead dump it in the plant next to the couch. It is mandatory that they order alcohol on your tab, so the first thing I tell them before we even go to the VIP area or even at the tables is “I don’t drink alcohol and will not order any, but I will order food for both if you want. If you don’t agree I respect that, but those are my conditions”. Treating them like they are stupid will never get you anywhere. Most of these girls are very good looking (of course depending on the club you go to, I like the top of the line), and they can get any guy they want when they want, because we are easy prey, lol. Most important, if you are going to be cheap don’t expect anything. They might like your looks, but one of the biggest turn-offs for girls is guys who are tight on the wallet. Also, if you go to the club with a girl, specially a good looking one, that tends help. The second one night stand was with a dancer that I met when I took a beautiful girl with me to the club. I bought the girl 5 lap dances with the dancer. The following time I went by myself and the dancer was really cool with me. After a while she gave me her number and we went out for a date.
Anyway, that’s my experience. Just remember a few things, be yourself, be cool, be funny, make the girls feel comfortable when they are with you, DO NOT treat them as if they are stupid, be a gentleman, don’t be sleazy, and most important don’t be cheap (but don’t break the bank either).
07/10/2013 at 6:28 pm Permalink
Totally lame advice from a total narcissicist. Ooohh you wear suits from Savile Row? You are obviously a douche unable to get a real girl hence you opine about picking up women whose job it is to like any man with 100 USD to spend. Totally dumb. You must have a separate blog about how to pick up Olive Garden waitstaff.
17/11/2013 at 3:59 pm Permalink
Learn to do tattoos and you will have trouble beating them off your dick
21/11/2013 at 11:20 am Permalink
You can fuck at clubs. You have to find the right one and the girls down to do it. PUA is for chumps.
06/01/2014 at 5:10 pm Permalink
There is this really pretty girl at the club I go to each week basically to see her. I would only dance with her and I spend a lot of money sometimes even up to 500 bucks just to dance w/her and talk to her. I don’t like to talk to her on stage because there are usually a bunch of guys there competing with me to talk to her.
I never really thought about dating her because she is so hot and I’m no Brad Pitt until during one dance she was being extra flirty and asking if I’m single and telling me she has no boyfriend. Then she ask me if I would date a stripper?! WTF. Well, to make a long story short, I was totally caught off guard and didn’t take the opportunity to make a date w/her. But I did tell her I have no problem dating a stripper so I guess if she wanted to go out w/me she would? Anyway, I felt I blew that chance.
I try to catch up w/her another night and wanted to ask her then but now she looks not as friendly almost if she knows I want to ask her out on a date. It was weird because she was definitely not as friendly as last time and plus she felt especially tired that night. So I refrain from asking because I knew I’ll get rejected. I did offer to give her my email but she just ignored me so already not a good sign.
On a dancer’s comments here about the pity date, I think this may be heading there as I spend so much money on this one dance over 6 months already. I doubt I even get the pity date which in all honesty after reading about it, I don’t even want it…sad, really.
Anyway, just want to vent. I guess back to reality since I got no game and we are talking about some of the most beautiful women on this planet even though they’re strippers. I guess looks is not everything and back to match.com and chatting with ugly fat girls.
28/03/2014 at 4:26 pm Permalink
All I’d like to say is just three things:
1. First, empty and free your mind from all the pickup pressures and canned routines before you go out because that will help you get relaxed enough to be your true self. In short, you want to do this because you want to make sure that your mind and heart are always in a peaceful state.
2. Embrace your real sexual feelings about any particular woman and just go ahead and openly share them with her in a playful way that subtly shows her that you might be potentially interested in her while not being needy towards her.
There’re really no limitations and no strict rules on how you can express your true self and your true sexual feelings when meeting women that you’re truly attracted. The key is to never try to hide your real sexual feelings from her because if you do, you stand no chance of sexually attracting her.
If you still don’t know what to tell her, all I can say to you: “Yes, you do.” But what you may not know is the right way. And the right way to say it is by just being playful about it.
As long as you’re playful in your expression of your real sexual feelings about her, you’re on the right path of attracting her.
If you’re just getting started in the dating field, I’d recommend you use a couple of your favorite banter lines as long as they really match your true personality. A banter line is a short, playful line that you say to a woman the way you playfully give her the image of a woman who’s passionately flirting with you and hitting on you right from the start.
An example of a banter line is: “You won’t believe what I’m about to tell you! You’ve almost made me spank your ass before you spank mine as soon as I felt your hot desire in your fiery eyes. So, you always seduce guys like this?”
Or another example is this: “So, you’ve come all the way over here to just flirt with me?”
So, using banter lines is really going to set you in the right direction when it comes to getting used to expressing your real sexual desires in a playful way.
Why do I recommend that you use banter lines?
It’s because banter lines actually make up the key secret to attracting women purely based on what most women say attracts them to a man. And, here’s the truth:
“Women are attracted to a man who can show them both his respect and his sexual desire at the same time.”
Guess what? The way you give her your respect is by just being playful. If you walk up to a random woman and try to express your real sexual feelings in a very stiff and serious way, chances are that she’ll instantly perceive you as a weirdo or a creep. Hope this makes sense to you.
Speaking of the importance of being playful when expressing your real sexual feelings and desires towards women that truly turn you on, this brings me to…
3. Apart from showing your playfulness through your smiles and your playful voice, there’s another key thing about staying on the right track of attracting her. That thing is your negative body language.
And, guess what? You also want to use your negative body language in a very playful way.
So, what’s negative body language all about? It’s about you not facing the woman that you’ve just met with your full body.
There’re many different ways of not facing the woman with your full body like standing side by side with her or standing next to her the way your right shoulder and her left shoulder almost make up an angle of 90 degrees where neither of you are forced to face each other all the time. I guess that you get this idea because this is also how you actually give her your respect by making her feel comfortable around you.
Anyway, one of the coolest ways of playfully showing her your negative body language is by simply turning your body away from her for 2-3 seconds immediately after you’ve said your banter line and got her uncontrollably laughing at it. While you’re having your back facing her, I suggest that you kind of try to look over your shoulder and smile at her as if you’re teasing her. By the time, you slowly turn back around and face her again, she’ll most likely try very hard to get back your attention and start to passionately flirt with you.
The reason why I warmly recommend you try out the above combo of using your negative body language and your banter line is because it’s proven to help guys make women chase them like crazy.
Hope you’ve found my comment helpful.
Bruno
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