“The more you conform, the less likely you are to be truly interesting.” – MPM
Most people focus on role models, but it’s far more effective to do just the opposite. Find anti-models—people you don’t want to resemble. Now, who’s the ideal anti-model? The average guy. Think about it:
They go home to live in a box; they study by ticking boxes; they go to what is called “work” in a cubicle box: they drive to the grocery store to buy food in a box; they go to the gym in a box; they talk about thinking “outside the box”, and when they die they are put in a box.
The collective status quo (school, jobs, a.k.a. the system) wants to box you in. They want you to blend in with the crowd. They want to strip you of your strength, masculinity, and individuality. It’s gotten so bad in recent years that “fitting into the mold” now means physical, mental, and emotional castration. Do everything you can to avoid this. Don’t cave in to the mediocre and the uninspired.
Instead, make a commitment to excellence. Make yourself a standout and command attention. This has its obvious benefits. First and foremost, it signals that you are a person of exceptional ability and high quality. Second, it shows you to be a tastemaker of resolute individuality. Third, it increases your social standing. People want to be near other people who give off positive vibes; a buzzing, effervescent state of mind can work wonders.
“You have approach girls with snap, swagger and energy. You need to have a purpose and pitch something that is exciting, fresh and unique.” – MPM (The Six Elements of Picking Up Girls)
When you make a commitment to excellence, though, you’ll inevitably run into some resistance. But when you’re facing your “competition”, remember this: What fools call a waste of time is most often the best investment. Most “regular” guys don’t have a clue about things like custom suits, swooping model girls, intercontinental travel, speaking multiple languages, gourmet foods, big bankrolls, boutique hotels, swigging Barolo, and smoking Davidoffs—it’s all a little bit beyond their comprehension because it’s fine living in another dimension. Sure, these things aren’t “regular”, but who cares? A preoccupation with fitting in is the main obstacle to a noble, elegant, and heroic life.
“The finest moments in my life have consisted of a Custom Italian suit, a full-bodied red, a key to a penthouse suite in my pocket, a thick bankroll, a booth in a Michelin starred restaurant, a beautiful girl looking at me, hypnotized, and a lit cigarette dangling from my mouth. Moments like these are what Life is all about (and of course what happens succeeding). The rest is just bullshit.” – MPM (Smoking and Liberty for All: Pro-Smoking Quotes)
There’s a famous latin phrase, Caeser pontem fecit, that translates into “Caesar built a bridge”. Of course, Julius Caesar himself did not build a single bridge. But he did have the vision to do so. This is important because his visionary building ultimately led the Romans to unquestioned military supremacy. We’re talking complete and utter dominance across Europe (not unlike your humble author). Unsurprisingly, Caesar was a leader with superior mental aptitude and unparalleled strategic skills. And in the end that’s what counts most, because it is all a mind game. Inner game and getting your mind right are key.
The alpha animal uses his mind to win the game, not just brute force or physical superiority. The lion in the savannah never has a chance if not for his ability to outsmart the prey by getting close. Otherwise, his superior strength is of little use. Same goes for Game. Humans are obviously the best example of mind over physical superiority. The alpha animal in the human world is rarely the strongest, but is almost always the wisest or most cunning.
What is cunning? Cunning is taking vampire naps and re-upping while everyone else is paying up–and then coming in for the kill. Cunning is skipping the treadmills of the “corporate” gym (which is just a place of isolation, anyway) and Entering the Dragon round for round. I mean, “When I look at people on treadmills I wonder how alpha lions, the strongest, expend the least amount of energy, sleeping twenty hours a day; others hunt for them.”
Which brings up an important point: trying too hard. Most guys are much too unnatural and over studied. You have to let it flow. Be natural. Unscripted. Smooth as silk. Girls pick up on G’s because they feel the higher value a.k.a. being Sharp, Urban, and International.
But don’t get too caught up in the details. The overall the truth about being an alpha male is simple: if you try to be an alpha male, you will never be one.
Luckily, some of us just Grew Up Not Giving a F*ck. It’s not complicated. “When you don’t give a f*ck everything starts happening and girls come to you. When you don’t give a f*ck you close hard. My brothers, do whatever you can to not give a f*ck.” Real G’s aren’t needy. They stand on their own, going for Dolo.
Simply put, the men who get along best with women are those who can get along best without them. It’s a well documented, almost zen like phenomenon; the less you need them the more desirable you become. Now that’s cunning.
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There is no better training ground than the real world
Mens sana in corpore sano— a healthy mind in a healthy body– was once the watchword for fitness. But look at what has happened to the way we keep fit: we exercise in windowless basements, ingesting both recycled air and asinine music piped in at a steady feed. The gym is a place of isolation. Just look at a packed gym with all the people hiding in their private worlds of iPods and earphones.
“First things first, you need a place to work out. You don’t want to join the corporate gym that has all new equipment, a juice bar and all yuppie clientele. Join the gym that has boxing equipment and is hot, smells terrible with a felon clientele…Always the top or the bottom, none of that middle of the road, suburban crap…a hall mark of The G Manifesto.” – MPM
But there’s a growing school of thought that, in terms of overall fitness, both physical and mental, the outside world is where we should be looking, not so much for inspiration but for things to actually do. Today, we don’t really push or pull things in our lives any more, and the gym somehow evolved to reflect that. It just isn’t fulfilling—there’s no interaction.
And as the aesthetic ideal for men shifts ever further away from the super-groomed metrosexual to a manlier paradigm, ideal body shapes are being reconsidered.
“You don’t need to lift heavy weights anymore, it’s not the Eighties, and you are not trying to sack the quarterback anymore.” -MPM
Clearly, for this different sort of workout, a different sort of motivation is required. Here is where boxing comes in. It is, after all, the most alpha of manly pursuits: going toe-to-toe in an old-fashioned fight. This is why scores of bankers, lawyers and industrialists (not to mention International Playboy’s on the rise) turn to boxing to boost adrenalin and build muscle. At Gleason’s Gym in Brooklyn, the 650 white-collar boxers make up more than half the clientele. “It’s a very good way to relieve stress and aggravation,” says Bruce Silverglade, Gleason’s president.
“One of the most important aspects of Entering The Dragon. You need to spar. Get your rounds in. They will pay dividends.”-MPM
On Wednesday nights, money manager John Oden leaves his tailored suit and Hermes tie in the locker room at the New York Athletic Club and climbs into the boxing ring in red Everlast gloves and white high-top sneakers. Much like the boxing greats he emulates, he feeds off the energy in the ring. Self-respect is also a factor. Not getting beaten up in front of your friends and colleagues is a much better motivator than wanting to look good; fighting for your pride is about the best goal you can have.
Relating to the Streets and Making a Comeback
While Oden was writing his book, “Life in the Ring: Lessons and Inspirations From the Sport of Boxing,” he was right in the middle of the financial crisis. The Down Economy was taking its toll. In fact, it was during this period that his I-bank’s investors pulled $44 billion from its funds. The Standard & Poor’s 500 Index fell to 676.53, the lowest level since September 1996.
“It was an awful time,” says Oden, sitting in a 36th- floor conference room overlooking Central Park. “Everyone I know suffered.” But many of the 12 boxers he was writing about, including George Foreman, Bernard Hopkins and James J. Braddock, overcame tougher challenges, he says. “I am talking about growing up in ghettos, having no education or role models, going to prison,” Oden says.
Like the business world, boxing requires “manic” preparation and 100 percent concentration. Before his fights, Oden learned about his opponents and worked out 10 times a week. “The ability to dig down and make a comeback in business is just the same as it is in boxing.”
And there’s a desirable side effect: incredible fitness. This is because boxing is massively aerobic, its constant motion and flexion punctuated by quick, controlled movements provinding an intense all-body workout. Plus, you acquire a skill, and you pick up a lot of confidence–not to mention respect.
“Even if people don’t appreciate the sport, they appreciate and understand the discipline and preparation required to do the sport,” Oden says. “Who wouldn’t want someone who has these qualities, who prepares this way for something?”
Latinas are a different breed of woman. Latin culture is very macho, the women are very feminine, bubbly, and male and female roles in Latin culture are more strictly defined and understood than what you are use to when dealing with 100% American women.
It’s hard to box all Latin women into generalizations because there are so many different types of Latin Women. You have the Latin women who grew up in your own country (most likely the U.S.A), who may have a mixed upbringing and with mixed Latino-American culture. You have newly arrived Latinas who grew up in Latin America and are in your back yard to visit. And even within Latin America, you have for example the white Argentine women of Buenos Aires who are notoriously tough to seduce, the more easy going Caribbean women who know how, and love to dance to just about anything, and you have more reserved, Latin women of the Andean regions of Latin America. Despite all these differences, if I had to pick the top five factors that will most likely be factors when trying to swoop Latin women, I’d go with this list:
#1: Leading
Machismo is very much alive in Latin America, although the level of this Machismo ranges throughout countries and regions. In general, Latin men are expected to be the bread winners. Men are expected to take charge and lead the interactions. This applies to mixed groups but also to one on one interaction. If a group of men and women go out in Latin America, the men usually chip in for the drinks. The men pick the location and decide where to go and what to do.
In fact, this is so much ingrained in the culture that if you don’t do this, the women will think you’re weak. When I first started traveling and dating women raised in Latin America I actually had women tell me “You’re the man, you’re supposed to decide what were going to do and where to go.” I didn’t just hear it from one woman; I heard it many times before it went through my thick skull. Latin women like to feel that they are with a man that can protect her, get sh*t done, and knows how to take care of things.
So when you’re trying to swoop those fly Latin mamis, remember, don’t be afraid to make the decisions, don’t supplicate, lead through the whole interaction, if something doesn’t go well take responsibility for it, take a deep breath, grab your balls and be the f*cking man.
#2: Language
There’s nothing better than surprising a Latin with even just a few words in her language. The truth is most Americans are too lazy to learn a new language. And since English is the most popular language on the planet, there’s very little incentive to learn a new one. But if you want to get “in” with the Latin women while you’re swooping them, you need to get down at least a few key phrases.
Learning a few words of phrases will help out with Latin women who know English, but if you’re trying to swoop Latin women in Latin America on their own turf, you’re going to need some fluency in most cases. The good news is that there are only two languages spoken throughout all of Latin America. And the even better news is that those two languages are very similar to each other: Spanish and Portuguese.
If you want to go to Brazil, and swoop some fly Brazileiras learn Portuguese. If you want to swoop Latin women anywhere else in Latin America learn Spanish.
You don’t need to become an expert, just get some conversational fluency and you’re all set.
#3 Dancing
Not all Latin women know how to dance, but it’s one of the biggest aspects of Latin Culture. Latinas almost go hand in hand with music and dance, especially if you’re talking about some of the most popular destinations like Puerto Rico, Dominican Republic, Colombia, Brazil, Costa Rica, and Cuba.
Being an American you get a lot more points if you know just the basics.
Also, Latin dances let you get up close and touching even if you just met. Most Latin dances involve hand clasping and an a light embrace which lets you get right up close, exactly where you want to be for the swoop.
Besides the touching and the points you get for knowing how to dance, taking a girl out to dance in Latin clubs and all over Latin America is a great opener, it’s easy and if you hit any bar or club in Latin America your chances of getting shot down are almost zero. Clubs in the U.S. are a bit different, but it’s still really easy to go up to a fly Latina, extend your hand with a smile and tell her “vamos a bailar.”
#4 Looks:
This last one is very touchy and you won’t hear it much from anyone else but it’s the truth. Latin women are in some ways very superficial and looks is one of those areas that can either make or break you. Latin women are the same when it comes to other women in the fact that they like guys who are in shape, lean, muscular etc. Tall guys will also do better. If you’re lean, in shape, dress sharp, and are tall then you have good chances of swooping lots of Latin women.
But the one factor that you cannot control that influences your chances greatly is RACE. The truth is that decent looking Caucasian men have an advantage over all other races in Latin America. The reason for this is that ever since the colonization of Latin America, the ruling class, wealthy and elite in Latin America have been of white European decent. Even to this day, if you go to the poor parts of any Latin city you’ll see a more black and Mestizo population. If you go to the rich parts of town, you’ll see more people that fit a Caucasian description.
If you’re white, Latinas will generally be more attracted to you because of this. Unfortunately the other side of this coin is that black men and men with Mestizo or indigenous features will experience less of this initial physical attraction from Latinas.
Although white guys have the upper hand with many Latinas there are certain regions, cities, and places in Latin America where this isn’t as much of an issue. If you’re white you can go to pretty much anywhere but if you’re black I’d suggest going to coastal cities which usually have a much more diverse population. Also try sticking to Caribbean countries and Brazil.
#5 Financial Stability:
When it comes to swooping Latinas there’s one last thing I’d list in the top five factors and that would be your financial stability. Latin America is a region of the world that has one of the highest income disparities in the whole world. This means that a very few people hold most of the wealth and everyone else gets by on very little.
Because of this Latin women who grew up in Latin America either directly experienced these economic limitations or have family who has. Even Latin women who live in your back yard probably have family back in Latin America with economic limitations.
Because of this, Latinas value economic stability a lot more than most western women. But this doesn’t mean you have to wine and dine her. All a Latina needs to know is that you can handle your finances. If you’re in the U.S. you might need a bit more to show this, but if you’re in Latin America, just the fact that you had enough to buy your plane ticket to Latin America already shows you have some kind of financial stability.
So don’t get me wrong on this. You only need to show that you can handle your finances and not necessarily wine and dine the Latina you’re swopping.
The Final Swoop:
So to sum it all up. Be a man and lead your Latina through the swoop. Learn some Spanish or Portuguese. Learn some Latin dance moves, in fact get a Latina to teach you! If you’re a decent looking white guy you have an advantage with many Latinas but this isn’t make or break if you can compensate with some game and can handle the other factors. Show your financial stability, but you don’t have to spend a lot to do this, especially if you’re in Latin America.
I take a step back, and look at the dating & relationships industry. Up until recently, it has been dominated by products for women. And now that the same industry is finally building a market around men, I realize that men are falling for the same BS that women continue to fall for. Not to say that it is complete BS, because a lot of the stuff works. However, most of what is marketed and sold in the dating & relationships industry VERY MINORLY improves your chances with the opposite sex.
We all ask the same question: what do women want? And as a result of this very question, we continue to seek answers in the wrong places by turning to products that are marketed to men in the world of seduction. Why is this the wrong thing to do? Because almost all seduction products are built around a philosophy, and when it comes to philosophy, we tend to forget that it isn’t built around fact. Philosophy is nothing more than an educated guess at best, hence, why a very small percentage of men actually see success when they buy a seduction product. How many of you have used a seduction product, whether free or if you paid a price for it, can actually say that you started sleeping with droves of women afterwards?
If I could take a wild guess, I would say that fewer than 10% of men who consult seduction products for advice actually see any real measurable success with them. And that is the fundamental problem with seduction products: no matter what the guru behind the product promises, it is nothing more than a philosophy that may have worked for him, but probably won’t work for most men.
Since that is the case, what should men be turning to for realistic advice on how to sexually attract women? The mainstream female porn industry. Why so? Because the porn industry can’t afford to philosophize and take guesses as to what is going to attract men and women; the porn industry has to make products based on reality. If their products don’t do their job and directly sexually attract their market, then that company will quickly be out of business. However, if a seduction guru promises a certain result, and you don’t achieve it, then they can just say that you’re doing something wrong or that you need to buy another one of their products. In other words, seduction gurus can afford to take you for a ride, but the porn industry can’t.
Let me give you a few examples. A seduction guru can give a woman ten hairstyles that will sexually attract men. If none of those hairstyles work, then something is wrong with the girl and she needs to buy another product. Now let’s look at the mainstream porn industry. They have to go by what men actually want to have sex with: a very fit girl in a skimpy outfit. They aren’t taking any chances, they aren’t guessing, and they aren’t philosophizing; they’re simply going by what is.
Now let’s look on the other side of the coin. A seduction guru can tell men that this line or that line will sexually attract women. If it doesn’t work, then something is wrong with the guy or he needs to buy another product. The porn industry can’t afford that. They know that they can’t just give the men in their porn (usually softcore porn, soap operas, or romance novels) lines or gimmicks to use on women; they know that the guy just has to have great communication skills (that is usually achieved by constantly talking to people of all backgrounds), which is very different than a line or routine. Again, they aren’t taking any chances, they aren’t guessing, and they aren’t philosophizing; they’re simply going by what is.
Knowing this, if you are a guy that is trying to sexually attract women, where should you be getting the bulk of your advice about sexually attracting women? Not gurus, not seduction products, not seminars, and not talk show hosts. If you really want legit advice on how to sexually attract women, then you need to grab a pen and pad, and go directly to the source: somewhere where they can’t afford to take chances or be wrong: the porn industry; it doesn’t philosophize sexual attraction. It simply goes by what is.
